Raise Your Hand If You're A 20-Something & Are Scared Of All The Potential You Hold.

Raise Your Hand If You're A 20-Something & Are Scared Of All The Potential You Hold.

Dreams give us a direction but they stay in our heads.

We need to change dreams into visions that have actionable steps behind them. A person can dream for days but nothing will get done until you take the first step.

Need some help? Here is a snippet of an article that I read this morning that got me motivated:

2) Use "Minimum Viable Effort"

Want to floss more often? Okay, just floss one tooth. Sound silly? That’s fine. Just like your mom told you: focus on baby steps

Pfffft! Resolutions?!

I've given up on New Years Resolutions a few years ago because they were usually all the same (lose weight, have fun, save money, etc.). At the end of the year I would feel discouraged when I looked back on my list realizing I didn't fulfill most of my goals.

For more flexibility, I started utilizing __ before __ from the blogosphere around my 21st birthday. The __ before __ list has simply laid down a path for me to follow but I know I am free to stray from this path when more enriching opportunities and possibilities pop-up (or even ignore the path if necessary).

Last year (22 before 23) I either completed or partially completed 11/22 items. There is no shame in that because, as you can see in the image below, I've opened myself up to so many possibilities by attending workshops, events, conferences, and other activities in the community. So much so that my cultural richness level is skyrocketing compared to previous years.

What are your possibilities this year? What flexi-path or flexi-plan do you want to create for yourself? I'd love to hear/read/see what you've come up with!

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22 before 23

To finish off, below are two videos I found about New Years Resolutions and Goal-Setting.

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A Fun YouTube blogger, Superwoman, and her 2014 New Year's Resolutions

 

TEDxRedmond - Jason O'Neil - Goals vs. Plans

Happy Birthday Body Fat! Happy Birthday.

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Asian Arts Freedom School hosted a 3-part workshop series with Catherine Hernandez.

In the first workshop Catherine created a circle of safe vulnerability where we had to connect with our muse (or intuition) by making eye contact with other participants then breaking into a body movement. We then split into small groups to re-create a reading of a eulogy. Following the reading Catherine invited us to write a creative eulogy; some people wrote about their past selves and others spoke of abstract concepts. Here's mine, talking about the death of expectations:

Goodnight sweet expectations. Born before the birth of your mother; plans, hopes, and dreams. You were supposed to bring Fonna the American Dream - husband, some kids, a nice house, with a pleasant job - regurgitating norms.

Fondest farewell as a reclamation is in process. Expectations, you've held back many dreams, disappointed many parents, and shattered countless relationships. We now collectively make space for you in the ground in order to allow creativity, uniqueness, inhibition, and pure joy.

Expectations, ever since your passing you've allowed people to finally be happy and carefree 
(It will be interesting to lose you).

Yesterday Alvis and I were the only participants… and the creation process was choppy but hella connected.

Again, Catherine led us through writing and performing the death and life of something/someone. While performing we played with levels, smudged one another, and re-created ourselves with objects. Below is my eulogy celebrating the death of mislabeling self-care:

We mark the end of a significant time period in which doing nothing all day is seen as lazy and unproductive.

This perspective has brought about many fears amongst people who are taking care of themselves, beautifully tangled bodies, and fabulous folks dealing with chronic illnesses.

Today, gathered in mourning are the capitalist fucktards that reinforce the idea of resting is a weak trait.

We wish to never look back at feelings of shame and hurt; instead looking forward to happier, healthier, healing individuals in this community.

Thank You.

Following death, we always look forward to birth - here is my birth announcement about body fat:

Happy Birthday Body Fat!

Born of brown skin, luscious rolls, curves, crevices, and waves. The world opens in acceptance, to growth, and fullness of your being and existence.

Parented by others with different names - baby fat, chubby, big boned, voluptuous - oh, it is a treat to see you today!

Siblings sausage fingers and chub rub rejoice, excited to see you grow into muffin tops and back boobies.

Today we celebrate the concluding stages of body positivity by gathering together in family feasts in order to see you flourish.

Happy Birthday Body Fat! Happy Birthday.

I hope you liked what I created.

- Fonna

P.S. I'm currently jamming' out to Elton John!

Strange Sisters: The Insatiable Redux

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6 mixed-media images from The Femme Chronicles were showcased during Strange Sisters on October 25th. Kim Crosby & Gein Wong posted a final thank you notice on the blog.

8 performance artists

Catherine Hernandez, India Davis,Juliet November,Donna Michelle St. Bernard, Alvis Parsley, Yvonne Fly Onakeme Etaghene, cassy walker & Masti Khor 

2 visual artists

Francesca Nocera & Fonna Seidu

Fonna Seidu, ”would like to thank all the youth group participants who attended, Rufina Bernabe (mom!) & Drey Anozie (filmmaker) for supporting my artistic decisions, and my models Juli(a), Bridget, and Julian.”

I am grateful for the experience and got my life watching the performances - especially Yvonne Fly Onakeme Etaghene's femme empowerment piece and India Davis' hoop & pole performances.

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Bridget

I look forward to show more of my work in group exhibitions in the upcoming months!

50 Shades of Black

50 Shades of Black Earlier this month I was asked by a co-ordinator of the Black Queer Youth Initiative to take pictures of folks who participated in the program. Of course, knowing my drive to share people's stories, I jumped at the opportunity to share fragments of stories from people of my community. Myself, along with another local photographer - Jah Grey - set aside two evenings (and various days) taking pictures and editing the final product. This will be the first time my artwork is displayed in public and I can't help but bask in the tremendously warm feeling running throughout my body as I type these words. If I didn't have to study for my midterm tomorrow morning, I'd be euphoric and my mind would be flowing with creative content. Wednesday will be very important to me, and I can't wait to see what people think of my work.

Check out some of the shots on my Facebook Page

Leaving on a Jet Plane

"...despite my concerns, there's still time to enjoy the present and maybe I'll get the chance to travel in order to chase my own dreams!"

"I used to hold a mop for a living..."

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I used to hold a mop for a living...You can say that I have been a hard worker since a very young age. The thing about it is that I didn’t know that I was working hard. I just knew that I was doing what needed to be done. I was emulating my mother’s work ethic. - Glenford Nunez

I am a person who often listens to people's stories. As I my imagination weaves images with the words people share with me, all the trials and tribulations youth go through...especially in my community, I can't help but feel in the depths of my heart that they will succeed.

There are are so many beautiful souls who are currently experiencing - and struggling through - what Glenford Nunez (a popular Baltimore photographer) once experienced.

Despite their current struggles, I know youth are enduring hard times and working effortlessly to follow their passions. So, I want to give a huge shout out to all of the amazing Toronto youth in the community who are working their butts off to grow and evolve in every aspect of their life!

With love, Fonna-Tasha