Raise Your Hand If You're A 20-Something & Are Scared Of All The Potential You Hold.

Raise Your Hand If You're A 20-Something & Are Scared Of All The Potential You Hold.

Dreams give us a direction but they stay in our heads.

We need to change dreams into visions that have actionable steps behind them. A person can dream for days but nothing will get done until you take the first step.

Need some help? Here is a snippet of an article that I read this morning that got me motivated:

2) Use "Minimum Viable Effort"

Want to floss more often? Okay, just floss one tooth. Sound silly? That’s fine. Just like your mom told you: focus on baby steps

Pfffft! Resolutions?!

I've given up on New Years Resolutions a few years ago because they were usually all the same (lose weight, have fun, save money, etc.). At the end of the year I would feel discouraged when I looked back on my list realizing I didn't fulfill most of my goals.

For more flexibility, I started utilizing __ before __ from the blogosphere around my 21st birthday. The __ before __ list has simply laid down a path for me to follow but I know I am free to stray from this path when more enriching opportunities and possibilities pop-up (or even ignore the path if necessary).

Last year (22 before 23) I either completed or partially completed 11/22 items. There is no shame in that because, as you can see in the image below, I've opened myself up to so many possibilities by attending workshops, events, conferences, and other activities in the community. So much so that my cultural richness level is skyrocketing compared to previous years.

What are your possibilities this year? What flexi-path or flexi-plan do you want to create for yourself? I'd love to hear/read/see what you've come up with!

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22 before 23

To finish off, below are two videos I found about New Years Resolutions and Goal-Setting.

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A Fun YouTube blogger, Superwoman, and her 2014 New Year's Resolutions

 

TEDxRedmond - Jason O'Neil - Goals vs. Plans

Sept to Nov in 3 minutes & 5 Seconds

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My first video recapping September - November 2013; there are a lot of things that need to be worked on, but I'm still pretty proud of my video!

SONG CREDITS

Morsa - erotic post-ironic ft. Ella morsa

Dd2 remixx - legend da beatslaya

Blank kytt  - sgt frog

Handbook - been a while since you spoke bad panda

Unknown - Flying until the end

Happy Birthday Body Fat! Happy Birthday.

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Asian Arts Freedom School hosted a 3-part workshop series with Catherine Hernandez.

In the first workshop Catherine created a circle of safe vulnerability where we had to connect with our muse (or intuition) by making eye contact with other participants then breaking into a body movement. We then split into small groups to re-create a reading of a eulogy. Following the reading Catherine invited us to write a creative eulogy; some people wrote about their past selves and others spoke of abstract concepts. Here's mine, talking about the death of expectations:

Goodnight sweet expectations. Born before the birth of your mother; plans, hopes, and dreams. You were supposed to bring Fonna the American Dream - husband, some kids, a nice house, with a pleasant job - regurgitating norms.

Fondest farewell as a reclamation is in process. Expectations, you've held back many dreams, disappointed many parents, and shattered countless relationships. We now collectively make space for you in the ground in order to allow creativity, uniqueness, inhibition, and pure joy.

Expectations, ever since your passing you've allowed people to finally be happy and carefree 
(It will be interesting to lose you).

Yesterday Alvis and I were the only participants… and the creation process was choppy but hella connected.

Again, Catherine led us through writing and performing the death and life of something/someone. While performing we played with levels, smudged one another, and re-created ourselves with objects. Below is my eulogy celebrating the death of mislabeling self-care:

We mark the end of a significant time period in which doing nothing all day is seen as lazy and unproductive.

This perspective has brought about many fears amongst people who are taking care of themselves, beautifully tangled bodies, and fabulous folks dealing with chronic illnesses.

Today, gathered in mourning are the capitalist fucktards that reinforce the idea of resting is a weak trait.

We wish to never look back at feelings of shame and hurt; instead looking forward to happier, healthier, healing individuals in this community.

Thank You.

Following death, we always look forward to birth - here is my birth announcement about body fat:

Happy Birthday Body Fat!

Born of brown skin, luscious rolls, curves, crevices, and waves. The world opens in acceptance, to growth, and fullness of your being and existence.

Parented by others with different names - baby fat, chubby, big boned, voluptuous - oh, it is a treat to see you today!

Siblings sausage fingers and chub rub rejoice, excited to see you grow into muffin tops and back boobies.

Today we celebrate the concluding stages of body positivity by gathering together in family feasts in order to see you flourish.

Happy Birthday Body Fat! Happy Birthday.

I hope you liked what I created.

- Fonna

P.S. I'm currently jamming' out to Elton John!

A Sunday with Catherine Hernandez

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Sundays are typically known to be resting days, but on the 17th I participated in a workshop facilitated by Catherine Hernandez (hosted by Asian Arts Freedom School). Right after check-in Catherine introduced us to the concept of muse and ego. With artists our muse is also known as our intuition - where we trust our instincts and create whatever is necessary in the moment. The ego often hinders the creative spirit of the muse by re-enforcing socialized norms and rules. The activity required us to be vulnerable, make eye-contact one at a time with other participants then bust out a movement we were feeling in that particular moment. We did this three times to three different songs and I realized my ego is hella dominant. Simply "going with the flow" and "trusting my intuition" was tough for me - I was afraid of embarrasing myself by making the wrong type of movement. Thankfully, we will be doing two more workshops in the upcoming weeks, so I can learn how to quiet my screaming ego.

Afterwards, I offered some videography services to Catherine for Operation Lifeboat by Sulong Theatre. It was a lucky opportunity because I had a camera on me - plus I haven't had money to donate relief funds to the Philippines, so shooting videos was my contribution at the time. We filmed Alvis Choi, Katie Sly, & Ill Nana Diverse City Dance Company. They all spoke about really relevant topics and I'm excited to see their videos.

So far here are some of the videos where my film clips were included:

Strange Sisters: The Insatiable Redux

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6 mixed-media images from The Femme Chronicles were showcased during Strange Sisters on October 25th. Kim Crosby & Gein Wong posted a final thank you notice on the blog.

8 performance artists

Catherine Hernandez, India Davis,Juliet November,Donna Michelle St. Bernard, Alvis Parsley, Yvonne Fly Onakeme Etaghene, cassy walker & Masti Khor 

2 visual artists

Francesca Nocera & Fonna Seidu

Fonna Seidu, ”would like to thank all the youth group participants who attended, Rufina Bernabe (mom!) & Drey Anozie (filmmaker) for supporting my artistic decisions, and my models Juli(a), Bridget, and Julian.”

I am grateful for the experience and got my life watching the performances - especially Yvonne Fly Onakeme Etaghene's femme empowerment piece and India Davis' hoop & pole performances.

Bridget
Julian
Julian
Juli(a)
Juli(a)
Bridget

I look forward to show more of my work in group exhibitions in the upcoming months!

Leaving on a Jet Plane

"...despite my concerns, there's still time to enjoy the present and maybe I'll get the chance to travel in order to chase my own dreams!"

21 Before 22

"It's my birthday and I can make a new blog if i want to!"

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Image Source: Cupcake Design

I've noticed the wordpress community has more access to different blogs using pages such as tags and freshly pressed. Whereas in blogger, you have a "next blog" button or you have to look through other people's followers.

Now that I'm back at the ripe ol' age of 21, I want to expand my opportunities.

I was inspired by A Beautiful Mess to make a goal list of 21 things to do before I am 22.

  1. Find a permanent volunteer position
  2. Complete 1 book; filled with journaling/scrapbooking
  3. Attend an opera
  4. Learn to sew with a machine
  5. Have someone write a guest post for my blog
  6. Support a protest
  7. Visit a main city in America
  8. Take an online blogging course
  9. Save $200+ in each savings account (I have 3 accounts)
  10. Write or translate a whole blog post in french
  11. Find a great cafe in Toronto
  12. Customize an outfit
  13. Read a self-help/self-improvement book
  14. Buy an original piece of art
  15. Rent movies and watch them all day
  16. Go vegan for at least 1 day each month
  17. Pay off my credit card debt
  18. Find my signature scent
  19. Watch a musical
  20. Participate in summerlicious
  21. Attend a TED talk

If you want some inspiration, here are some blogs that have to-do lists:

Hulk is Hungry, Dumb Funnery, My Stage My Choreography His Vision, 2 Boys n' Me, Alexandra Doffing, New Jersey Photographer Rich Green and you can check out more to-do lists here.